Being Gay Is More Than Same Sex Attraction
By Andy Heath
The constant criticism I hear of gays (especially gay men) is that all we want is sex. As far as others are concerned, we are not interested in loving, caring relationships, nor families, nor career, nor anything really. Some people view us as sex crazed monsters that have no desire to live normal lives. Nothing could be further from the truth.
You see, I am a gay man, and perhaps you are a straight man or a straight woman. Maybe you're a lesbian. If any of these categories fit you, you might be surprised to find out that you and I have a great deal in common. We both want to be loved and accepted. Rejection hurts both of us. We both want to find healthy, happy friendships, relationships, and family units. We both care about our contributions to the world and our careers. We both want to be creative. We both want to do good for others.
And we both want to have sex from time to time. Yes, there is an element of sex involved in being gay (or straight for that matter), but it is not an end all for anyone. Unless we have sex addictions, we usually do very well whenever we're not having sex. We are not monsters obsessed with orgasms all the time. We want all the things that you want. We want to do all the things you want to do.
So if you think that gays are just pedophile, sex crazed monsters that have no value to offer the world, quite frankly you're wrong. I encourage you to get to know some of us. You will find there is more to us than the desire for sex.
