How Many Times Must I Tell You that Being Gay Is Not a Choice?
By Andy Heath
Christians argue that we gays live in sin. They argue that we are bad people that have turned away from the natural laws of God. So ask them: How many times must I tell you that being gay is not a choice? Let me say that again. Being gay is NOT a choice.
And who would choose it? Would the straight Christians? What truly straight man would have sex with another man? Yet this absurd occurrence is what Christians argue that we gay men do. They say that we are naturally straight, that we are naturally attracted to women, and that we choose to engage in sexual activity with other men, an act that would disgust most straight men.
So occasionally I ask Christians why we would do that? Why would a gay man choose to be gay? A lot of times they simply tell me they don't know, which I find unacceptable. If Christians are going to lobby this country's legislators to deny us the right to marry and the right to adopt, then I think they owe us a plausible and logical explanation as to why naturally straight men would choose to have sex with other men. And good luck finding a logical reason because to date I have not found one. And for that matter, I did not choose to be gay. It happened. It just happened.
Some Christians will say that we choose to be gay because we are naturally deviant people and we want to do those things that God does not want us to do. Let me tell you something about what God wants me to do. I'm not terribly concerned about it. I make my own destiny. But just as I have no desire to do those things that the Christians' god wants me to do, neither do I have such disdain for this god that I would actively choose to do something that it does not want me to do. No offense to their god, but I'm not really that concerned about its will for me. I don't worship the Christian god. I don't worship any god. I commune with the spirit world via meditation and Tarot reading. I communicate with my higher self and with those spirits that have chosen to accompany me in my journey on this planet for all the time that I'm here, but I do not worship them, nor do they worship me. All of us, human and spirit, are sophisticated enough not to need or want to be worshiped. We have a loving and caring relationship. I really enjoy talking to those spirits and listening to what they have to say to me, but I don't think any of them expect to be worshiped and adored. That would be akin to cheerleaders expecting the football team to worship them. The cheerleaders go to the games to support the football team, not so the football team will adore them. Both the cheerleaders and the football players have a function, and both fulfills their function as long as necessary. There is no need for worship between them, and honestly the same relationship exists between the beings in the physical plane and those in the spiritual plane.
Now with all that said, neither the spiritual beings around me nor I have any concern about my sexual orientation. We don't have time. We are too busy working together to make a meaningful contribution to the world. We are too busy trying to make our way through the world and hopefully improve the lives of as many physical and spiritual beings as possible. That is our goal, and it is what we do.
So because we don't care about sexual orientation and because we are not interested in pleasing or making angry some petty god that hardly even exists, I can honestly say that I did not take that into consideration as I gay man, and indeed, I did not choose to be a gay man. For that matter, you did not choose to be gay or straight either. Think about it. I mean, really, give it some thought. Did you choose your sexual orientation? Does anyone? It is better to use logic when arriving at a conclusion about the decisions that people make in their lives. And there is neither logic nor merit to the argument that gays choose their sexual orientation.
